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The
911 Call
Have
you ever thought about "making a change" in your life? I know
I have ~ many times. I'm a person who likes to be in control --
multi-task oriented, organizer, perfectionist, obsessive-compulsive --
you know, I am sure, the current cultural, psychological
lingo. Change does not come easy. Perhaps you are like me. Something
happened, however, on the Wednesday morning after Easter 1999 that
"changed my life" forever, and I had nothing to do with it!
It
was late on Tuesday, April 6. My home-schooled children, -- ages 13, 10,
and 5 -- were bedded down for the night. My husband, Ken, had gone to
bed too; the house was really quiet. It was a perfect time to get
some real work done on a pressing church project.
After
working for a while, I began to get extremely tired, so I decided
to save my work on the computer and go to bed. I stood up and walked
into the kitchen and, all of a sudden, I felt what others have best
described as a "gunshot" pain in the back of my head. BAM!
My head, my neck, and my eyes began to immediately throb with
intense pain. I
instantaneously grabbed my head and closed my eyes.
I
blindly began to fumble for the cabinet door to get some Co-Tylenol®, but
as I touched the knob, the pain in my head became more intense and
unbearable. I opened
my eyes to see black, flashing halos of light. I did not know
that these "flashing halos" were an indicator that I was
intermittently being blinded. It was extremely difficult to keep my eyes
open; I knew, without a doubt, something horrible was happening.
The pain was excruciating -- unlike anything that I had ever
experienced before! I filled a cup with water and quickly gulped it down
with the Co-Tylenol®. I paced back and forth in the kitchen, shaking, moaning
and groaning. I honestly did not know what was wrong nor did I
know what to do. My family was asleep and I was awake at
4:00 in the morning - the one factor, though, that doctors have since
speculated that "probably helped save my
life."
We
live in a two-story house but somehow God enabled me to stumble up the
stairs and into our bedroom. As I opened the door, I called in the
darkness to my husband, Ken, to tell him that I was terribly ill and
needed to go to the hospital. He quickly sat up, asked me several
questions, and then ran downstairs to call 911. I began to panic,
wondering what we would do with our children. We live in what I call a
little "hollow" in the mountains.
It was 4:00 in the morning!
Holding onto the stair banister, I followed him back down the
stairs and into the kitchen. There I found him talking on the phone to
the 911 dispatcher.
After
he hung up the phone, I began to mumble "wifely"
instructions to him. He "husbandly" assured me that
"everything was going to be okay" and strongly urged me to go
lie down. He made additional phone calls to a neighbor and to our pastor
and then left to go back upstairs to get dressed.
By
that time, my chest had begun to hurt and it was becoming increasingly
difficult to breathe. I felt weak. Concerned that I might lose
consciousness if I were to lie down, I sat down in a kitchen chair
instead. My head throbbed. My
life, it seemed, was flashing before my eyes with every beat of my
heart. I began to fret about the children. “Who was going to feed
them in the morning?” I
stood back up and made my way back over to the cabinets. Opening the
doors, I fumbled for three plastic cereal bowls and their lids. I
grabbed the cold cereal from the top of the fridge and hastily poured it
into the bowls, spilling some of it onto the floor.
I clumsily snapped the lids onto the bowls and then placed spoons
by each bowl on the kitchen table. One for Michael, one for Mark, and
one for Meredith. In my anguished and confused state of mind, I think I
was attempting to meet one last need ~ perhaps to balance out all
the needs I had left unmet.
My
thoughts became more chaotic. I began to be troubled about other
things that I had left undone. Taxes were due. “How could Ken
school the children if I went into the hospital?” For the first
time in our marriage, we had no health insurance; we had just started a
church resource and children's evangelistic ministry.
Thoughts raced through my mind.
I did not want to be a hindrance to my husband.
Having had heart problems since I was young, I knew that worrying
would cause my blood pressure to rise; I already thought that I was
having a stroke. My thoughts strayed to my mother and the years she was
bedridden because of a stroke at age 60 after surgery on a brain
aneurysm. For eight whole
years she was an invalid, unable to control anything in her life. Now,
at 44 years of age, I was beginning to lose control of my life and I
became very, very scared.
We
Desperately Needed A Miracle
While
waiting for the ambulance to arrive, I began to weep and cry out to God
and to quote Psalm 23 and other Bible passages.
The pain was agonizing and seemingly stripping me of my ability
to recall what I felt I desperately needed most - assurance from God's
Word that a plan was in place. I did not know that blood was filling
the subarachnoid space in my brain and beginning to clog my 4th
ventricle. Thoughts continued to drift. Time
seemed to be moving so slowly. So very troubled by my confused emotions,
the mixture of anxieties and worries, I begged God to help me to think
"His thoughts.” It
was then that the precious Holy Spirit impressed Psalms 18:30 upon my
heart, "As
for God, His way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried: he is a
buckler to all those that trust in him."
I
leaned over in the chair at the kitchen table and put my head between my
knees and whispered the first part of the verse over and
over again, meditating and claiming its profound truth in my
heart ... "As
for God, His way is perfect:..."
Months
before, my pastor had counseled me, "Lydia, you can't see the whole
picture. God knows the end from the beginning.” Though I could not
understand what was happening at this moment either, I knew that
God was there with me. Eternity was perhaps a "moment" away.
The seatbelt had been "buckled" many years ago and true to His
Word, God began to give me a "peace
that passeth understanding." (Philippians 4:7 )
The
ambulance arrived. No sirens. No flashing, blue lights. One paramedic
calmly entered my kitchen door and then another followed. Once they
evaluated my symptoms and determined my critical condition, I was
strapped to a gurney and wheeled out the door and into the ambulance.
Before I left for the 25 mile trip to the hospital, Ken quickly prayed
with me again, kissed my forehead, and promised to leave to meet me at
the hospital as soon as he awakened our oldest son, Michael.
I would not be aware of Ken’s touch or his presence again for
three days.
Though
I drifted in and out of consciousness while in the ambulance, I could hear someone
talking by radio to the hospital. I knew my situation was grave. While
one EMT worked with me, I heard someone classify my
condition as Priority One. My blood pressure had risen to 225 over 165;
pain was radiating up my arm and into my chest. I was becoming
increasingly confused and disoriented and began vomiting. The attendant
wiped my face and my forehead. He told me to open my mouth. He inserted
something under my tongue. I remember asking him,
“what is this?” He told me “nitroglycerin.”
He slipped the third pill under my tongue as we approached the hospital.
I struggled once more to stay awake and in "control",
but I finally lost total consciousness when the back doors to the
ambulance were opened to the cool, early morning air. I could no longer strive
with the will of God. My condition, my life was out of my control and into
the hand of God where, beyond my fleshly ability to comprehend, it
had been all along.
I
was unaware that I was having a subarachnoid bleed from a
ruptured aneurysm that was located beneath the delicate membrane that
encloses the spinal cord and the brain. An aneurysm is a widening
in the arterial wall; sometimes this bulging spot, of any size, can
rupture with no warning. A CT scan and an angiogram revealed, unknown to
me, that I had two congenital (present since birth) aneurysms;
the giant one was bleeding profusely, causing intense and
dangerous pressure on my brain. The unthinkable had happened.
By
late Wednesday morning, I slowly slipped into a coma and was placed on a
ventilator. In order to alleviate the build-up of cranial pressure
caused by the bleeding, the neurosurgeon in Hagerstown, Maryland,
skillfully performed a procedure called a ventriculostomy in which a
hole is drilled into the skull to allow this fatal buildup of fluid to
escape the brain by draining into a bag. The temporary shunt saved my
life, and I soon regained a lucid state of consciousness. I vaguely
remember fluttering my eyes in ICU on Wednesday, seeing Assistant Pastor
Blackburn's kind face and feeling the squeeze of his hand.
But I had no idea where I was or what was going on.
Having
Compassion and Making a Difference
By
Wednesday morning, the news was out. A family took our children into
their home and under their protection. Friends came to the emergency
room to check on me and to pray with Ken. Some stayed all day with him.
An early ladies’ prayer meeting was quickly organized. And so on
Wednesday evening, as I lay in ICU in critical condition, a group of
ladies met to pray before AWANA and the regular prayer service
began at our church, Emmanuel Baptist
Temple. I was told later
that the room was over-flowing with women pouring their hearts out to
God in my behalf. God was at work while I was unconscious.
Phone
calls were made to family and countless email messages were sent out to
churches and friends across the United States and to missionaries across
the World. While I was comatose and totally unaware of my perilous
state, precious saints of God had begun to pray and to work. A Trust
Fund was set up to help finance our medical expenses, and people began
to immediately give. I was unable to call out for God's help but others
called out for me. There was no question; everyone, including the
doctor, was in agreement. A
miracle from God was needed -- and I did not even know it.
Because
the aneurysm was located near the brain stem, the decision was made at
11:00 that night to send me by Med-evac to University of Maryland
Center's Neurological Intensive Care Unit. No promises were made to
my husband; he did not know whether I would survive the helicopter trip
to Baltimore or what my recovery would necessitate other than possible
surgery. It took the Med-evac team over an hour to get me stabilized and
ready for transport. A
hospitalized lady from our church, awakened by the roar of a helicopter,
gazed out of her window during those early morning hours and watched the
Med-evac team at work, not knowing that it was me they were working on.
Life was going on as it passed by me.
Ken was told to leave Hagerstown and to drive to Baltimore.
Cradled
in God's loving arms, I was finally air-lifted 90 miles away from
the farmlands of Hagerstown and over into the inner city of Baltimore.
The statistics were not in my favor. To some, I am sure, the time clock
on my earthly life seemed to be ticking away. The neurosurgeon later
revealed to my husband that 60 percent of all people who have
subarachnoid bleeds from an aneurysm rupture never make it alive to the
emergency room. Nearly 24 hours had passed and I was still alive.
I
slipped in and out of consciousness during the next day; Ken was awake
and had to make critical decisions for my care. The aneurysm had
momentarily clotted. My condition was critical but stable. Ken
was faced with a myriad of complicated questions that required sobering
answers. Should he sign
papers for me to be an organ donor in the event of brain-death? Did he
truly want to risk brain surgery and the possible complications? What
life-saving measures should the hospital staff take in the event of my
having an debilitating stroke?
We
were young. The answers to these questions never crossed our minds.
Though we had buried our prematurely born daughter, Mallory Hope, in 1988,
in our day-to-day activities, we were like so many others, forgetting
the "brevity of life" (James 4:14) and the "reality
of death." (Hebrews 9:27) The destiny of both of our lives and
our scattered dreams seemed to be slipping out of our weak grasp.
God was literally showing us that He, indeed, is the one that "upholdeth"
… "with His Hand." (Psalm
37:24)
The
doctor took Ken into a room and showed him a multitude of images of my
brain lined up on a lightboard
and then detailed to him the extreme risks of brain surgery.
Because of the precarious location of the aneurysm, the
decision was made to clip this "ticking time bomb" by
craniotomy which involved drilling, removing, and disposing part of my
skull, pushing aside the durra matter, maneuvering around essential tiny
nerves and blood vessels, and performing the microscopic clipping of the
aneurysm at the PICA artery at the brain stem. One small gaffe
during surgery could bring about paralysis or death. Ken signed the
necessary forms. Before the surgery, he and a friend from our church had
the opportunity to pray with the neurosurgeon for God's guidance and
protection. Would God do a miracle for our family?
Ken pleaded with God to spare me.
The
Miracle God Gave
Obviously
from reading this story, you know that I survived the rupture and the
surgery. Surgery lasted for 13 hours on Friday. The neurosurgeon told my
husband everything came together according to a "script." We
believe it was "scripted" by the hand of God. God, in His
infinite mercy and grace, gave our family and our church the miracle
that we asked for. I can not answer "why for me" and "why
not for someone else." I don’t have the answers. I can only give God the glory He deserves for
guiding the hands and for performing the miracle that I did not deserve.
After
spending fourteen days in the Neurological Intensive Care Unit (7-8
days of that in physical and occupational therapy) and six more days in
the hospital, I came home to my family and friends. The doctors and
nurses were celebrating my survival; family and friends were
overwhelmed. Could it be true? No vasospasms. No strokes. No
seizures. I was 25 pounds lighter, bald-headed, and extremely weak, but I could
walk and talk and feed myself.
Seven
days after I came home from the hospital, a crisis developed as
headaches increased and fluid began to accumulate in my brain behind my
left ear. My childhood friend from South Carolina, Vickie Weiss, drove
me back down to Baltimore. I re-entered the University of MD hospital so that the
neurosurgeon could install a permanent peritonal shunt (basically a
drain of cerebrospinal fluid from the brain to the peritoneal cavity --
the space between the inside of your skin and the organs in your belly)
to relieve the pressure.
The
doctors had warned Ken that this might happen; the blood from the
rupture had blocked and damaged the proper drainage of the CSF. We were
assured that the drainage of this fluid into the cavity would not be
harmful. A week later I was discharged from the hospital. The fluid had
dissipated and the headaches had ceased. My prognosis was good; my only
disabilities were short-term memory problems and hearing loss due to
inner ear nerve damage (and subsequent tinnitus). With each passing day,
I regained my strength. So, slowly we began to rebuild our lives and to
learn, as a family, to cope with the negligible disabilities.
Being
in the ministry, we have learned that one of the purposes of tribulation
is to make Christians more holy - more like Jesus Christ. Character and
substance are shaped in adversity. The storms of life always
leave us with a list of things to clean up and fix. For Christians,
storms are wonderful opportunities, because, when they are rightly
faced, they help us see and acknowledge the broken areas in our life and
help us turn back to the only One who can make the necessary repairs,
the One who is in control. Certainly this was true for Ken and I. We
needed God to expose our broken windows.
Prior
to my aneurysm rupture, we had been coping with the failure of a
business venture. We had been so full of faith but yet so dependent upon
our ability to make life "work our way" in this
endeavor. And so it was beyond our ability in the flesh to
comprehend the financial loss and the personal embarrassment; life
seemed so unfair and totally out of our control.
I
was losing hope and becoming embittered at another ~ a dangerous
combination. In despondency and bitterness, I was grasping at loose
straws to regain control of what seemed to be the fragmented pieces of
our lives. I was falling apart inside and out, and bit by bit, God was
exposing my helplessness.
In
His infinite wisdom and love, God needed to humble me, bring me to my
knees and to utter dependency upon Him - the position I took 22 years
before when I laid all of my sin and my guilt at the foot of the cross
in acceptance of God's free gift of salvation. Jim Berg
writes in his book, Changed Into His Image, "Humility is
not only the start of the Christian life; it is the start of everything godly
in the Christian life." "Oh To Be Like Thee" is
God's plan for every Christian. God was revealing how truly
unlike Him I was.
True
to His Word, it is the "goodness of God that leads a man (or a
woman) to repentance" (Romans 2:4) - to biblical change. As
David, the Psalmist, said from his wealth of experiences, "It
is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy
statutes." (Psalm
119:71) The aneurysm rupture, surgery, and my miraculous survival
literally "woke" me up and made me see how wrong I had been
about so many things and how much of my life I needed to yield to
God. It is almost humorous to me that it took brain damage for my
brain to get in gear with the truth of the Word of God.
Brain trauma substantially broadened my spiritual understanding.
Forever I desire to be grateful for His infinite wisdom and mercy. Truly
it "endureth
for ever" (Psalm
118:29).
Facing
this life-and-death experience has been one of the hardest trials
of our lives, and it did leave us with many uncertainties. 19
months later, I faced a 2nd surgery on the remaining aneurysm.
During this surgery (the week of Thanksgiving in 2000), an undetected
3rd aneurysm on the optic nerve was visibly noted by my meticulous
neurosurgeon. He successfully clipped the 2nd aneurysm, came out
of the operating room and broke the news of the 3rd aneurysm to
my husband while the other surgeons reattached my skull and closed me
up. After a failed neuoradiological attempt to "coil" the 3rd aneurysm the
next day, the decision was made to re-enter my brain again the
day after Thanksgiving to clip the unstable remaining aneurysm. I
walked out of the hospital a week later after one failed
neuroradiological procedure and two successful brain surgeries with minimal
damage to my optic nerve. Six weeks later, my neurosurgeon gave me a
clean neurological bill of health and said, “There should not be
any more aneurysms. We will check you
again in five years.” He rejoiced with us at the goodness
of God.
Our
family now is able to joke that I have enough metal in my head to
cause an airport metal detector to shrill. My husband often
refers to me as the "bionic" mom because I am filled with
screws, wire mesh, tubes, and titanium clips. Bionic or not, I can hug
my dear husband and children and feel their warm embrace, I can cook,
walk and talk, see, sing praises to God, type on a computer and send out
email like crazy to myriads of aneurysm survivors and families, drive
our van, pass out tracts and witness and encourage others, and
homeschool our two youngest children. I can breathe on my own!
God is so merciful. Life's other worries have become so trivial.
Life
may seem uncertain and unfair to us at times. We all tend to worry over
little things. We just oftimes won’t admit it. Insignificant worries
tear up our nerves and destroy our digestive systems. Circumstances and
people disappoint us. We bear offenses and bury bitterness deep within
the crevice of our heart. Satan takes advantage of our vulnerabilities,
and then leans over and whispers “the lie” into our ear. We listen
and then question God's love and His justice. However confusing life may
seem at times, though, God's faithfulness and His love for us is not
uncertain. The Bible says that He loves us with an "everlasting
love"
(Jeremiah 31:3)
and that Jesus Christ is the ""same
yesterday, today, and forever" (Hebrews
13:8). Why
should we fret – if we exercise faith in God’s promises, we
know that God loves us and His love has no end!
Why
should we fear? God does indeed uphold. Through trials we can
find Him true to His Word. We found Him faithful for we
were carried through the deep, dark valleys and through the
uncertainties by His sustaining grace. God is not a God controlled
by circumstances; He is the God who controls circumstances. He is
in absolute control. One would think we should have known this already,
but I've come to the conclusion that we, like most Christians,
"know" this "in theory" but it is truly the
"storms of life" that help us "prove" the reality. We
are learning to let God be God, to obey and to wait on Him, and to
cooperate with His Will. Now II Corinthians 4:7 leaps out of the pages
of the Bible at me although I had heard Pastor John Vaughn at
Faith Baptist Church preach it so many times so many years ago while I was a student at
Bob
Jones University. It
says, “But
we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the
power may be of God, and not of us.” God is
the creator of these earthen vessels -- you and me. We begin to fear
when we try to take control of
the Potter's wheel.
Where
there times that we wanted to run and to hide in despair? Yes,
quite frankly -- many, many times. Are there times now — 4
years later — that we want to bury our heads in the sand?
Yes! The struggles in life are hard! Living
day to day with disabilities or limitations can be frightening. It has
only been because of the wonderful hope we have in the person and
work of Jesus Christ, accepting by faith that "my
times [our
times - your times] are
in thy [God's]
hand" (Psalm
31:15) and acknowledging that His "way is
perfect".
And
so we would say to you, dear Christian, faint not for God keeps
you! Do not be discouraged during your great fiery trial ~ for God has a
plan (Romans 8:28)! It is the trying of our faith that "worketh
patience.” James
further states, “But
let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire,
wanting nothing." (James
1:3-4) Patience
produces experience, and experience produces hope (Romans 5:4).
True
to God’s blessed Word, it is all adds up in God’s
perfect formula! He is working His plan!
My
hope is still alive because “He lives”; Jesus Christ is the stabilizing “anchor”
in a life.
For the unwavering
demonstration of the law and the love of Christ to us by our
loving Pastor and his wife, our church, our family and our friends, we
are so very grateful. They
have unconditionally weathered this raging storm with us
and helped us cooperate with the plan of God.
"And
he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is
made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in
my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” II
Corinthians 12:9
Is
Your Hope Alive?
I
received many cards and notes during and after my experience. In
one of those notes, a sweet lady in our church shared, "you are
a miracle to me. Sometimes my faith gets so weak, and I need to see a
walking miracle."
Perhaps
you are reading this story and you would say, "I need to see a
miracle. Where is my hope?" A miracle can be seen, dear friend,
in the life of any person, made possible only through the
transforming power of the Holy Spirit. This miracle happened to me on
March 12, 1977, when I trusted Jesus Christ as my personal Savior. When
this miracle happened, I became a new person, forever changed by the
saving grace and transforming power of Jesus Christ. I have never been
the same. I knew in my heart that if I died I would be "absent
from the body ... present with the Lord"
(II Corinthians 5:8). (Which
hope we have as an anchor of the soul, both sure and stedfast,
...."Hebrews
6:19a)
Here's
how you can experience a life-saving miracle in your life today. There
is hope!
ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOU ARE A SINNER AND THAT
THERE IS A PENALTY FOR YOUR SIN
Romans
3:10 "As it is written,
There is none righteous, no, not one:"
Romans 3:23 "For all have sinned,
and come short of the glory of God;"
Romans 6:23a "For the wages of sin
is death;"
Romans 5:12 “Wherefore, as by one man
sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon
all men, for that all have sinned:”
BELIEVE THAT JESUS CHRIST PAID THAT PENALTY AND
THAT GOD OFFERS TO YOU A GIFT OF ETERNAL LIFE THROUGH JESUS CHRIST
Romans 5:8 "But God commendeth his
love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for
us."
Romans 6:23b "...but the gift of
God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord."
John 3:16 “For God so loved the world,
that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him
should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
John 1:12 “But
as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of
God, [even] to them that believe on his name:”
To receive that miracle you must receive Jesus
Christ's payment for your sin by faith and simply ask God to forgive you
and save you so that you will go to Heaven when you die.
CONFESS YOUR SINS
Romans 10:9-10, 13 That
if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe
in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be
saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the
mouth confession is made unto salvation. For whosoever shall call upon
the name of the Lord shall be saved."
Right now, you can experience this miracle I
am talking about by bowing your head now and sincerely praying a simple
prayer like this: "Lord Jesus, I
realize that I am a sinner, which means I deserve to go to Hell. I know
I can do nothing to save myself. But believing that Christ died for my
sins, I am asking to be forgiven of them and I am trusting you alone to
take me to Heaven when I die. Do a miracle in my life and make me a real
Christian. Amen."
If you prayed that prayer and meant it with all
of your heart, would you please write or email
Ken and I and let us know? Our family would want to rejoice with you
and to help you in any way that we can. We would also love to put you in
contact with a good bible-believing church in your area that can help
disciple you in your new life in Christ. May God meet the need of your
heart.
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